Transitions are about Regulations
The end of August and early September have always felt like a period of transition. It carries that childhood mix of summer ending and a new school year beginning. And now, as a mom, I’m experiencing it in a whole new way through my kids. This week, my son started elementary school, and our whole house is riding the waves of change. Suddenly, it’s not just about regulating my own nervous system—it’s about helping my kids regulate, too.
The past week has felt bumpy, exhausting, and uncomfortable. This morning, I was short and grumpy with my family, and the send-off was less than smooth. My own edge was a reminder to slow down and reset.
Here’s what helped me regulate this morning:
Took my coffee outside and sat in the sun for 5 minutes.
Played music instead of listening to the news while getting ready for work.
Texted my husband a simple but genuine: “I’m sorry I was a grump this morning. I love you.”
And here are some reminders about transitions that help me (and maybe they’ll help you, too):
Transitions can be rough. Acknowledge the discomfort and remind yourself: it will pass.
Notice your own warning signs of being dysregulated (ahem, being grumpy or on edge with the people you love.)
Lower your expectations and see what you can let go of.
Be kind to yourself- you are human.
Give yourself something to look forward to (a favorite show, a massage, a walk with a friend, a glass of wine).
And breathe. Even one minute of quiet breathing can help.
~ Hannah Collentine-Cole, LCSW
Individual and Couples Therapy in Midtown Sacramento
